Earlier this week I had the pleasure of hosting a Blessingway (or Motherblessing) for my friend Rachael.
Blessingway ceremonies create a sacred and safe environment where a mother-to-be can explore the challenges and joys that lie before her as she approaches birthing and mothering. Surrounded by the most important women in her life, she gains a sense of power, confidence, and support that will help her rise to motherhood.
Birth is a key life passage for women. But modern culture has become preoccupied with the arrival of the baby-to-be and has lost touch with birth’s profound impact on the expectant mother. While our most common birth preparations focus on getting women physically ready to give birth, the blessingway ceremony helps a woman to prepare mentally, emotionally, and spiritually for the work of birthing, and it opens her to her instinctive abilities, which will guide her as she steps into the role of mother.( Blessingway Book)
As henna is being incorporated into modern culture, new traditions are being created. One new way women are using henna is to decorate the belly during pregnancy. This is a wonderful way to celebrate the body’s physical changes during pregnancy and embrace this special time. Baby showers, blessingways and henna parties can be combined into a day of pampering and relaxation for the new expectant mom, her friends, and family. (The Birthingway)
She chose to have a Birch tree for her belly henna because “it is the tree of birth and beginnings”.
It is tradition for the women who attend to bring a blessing and a bead for the woman being blessed. Rachael always refers to her baby as chickpea, so I sculpted her a chickpea bead out of polymer clay.
The beads are strung as a necklace and can be worn during labor.
I wrote Rachael a Haiku because traditionally they are focused on nature and human’s place in it, a season, as well as contrast and compare implicitly two events, images or situations. (Wikipedia.) (Photo Haiku inspired by A Foothill home Companion.)
Rachel gifted us candles that we will light individually while she is in labor.
Sharing our blessings and beads for Rachael.
It was truly an honor to be surrounded by these wonderful women, their warm energy and wisdom. We couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful evening.
Many Blessings on your way into Motherhood, Rachael!